I'm heartbroken

So I'm almost more sad now than I was when my marriage broke up. Ethan wants and will more than likely go stay with Brandon for a while. :'( I wish he would realize that it's fun with his dad only because he comes out here once every two months and buys toys, ice cream, clothes and anything else he wants. It's not gonna be fun with him. He's going to be at work ALL the time and Ethan is going to be with a complete stranger. It's killing me! The A**hole is going to fly back out here in March for the next court hearing. WHY? He got a lawyer which I'm sure either his dad or his girlfriend paid for and asked for a freakin' paternity test. I'm sorry, who's the one that cheated? I just think it's ridiculous that he would do that just to postpone paying child support. I know that he said all kinds of things to Ethan to make him want to come out there. Ethan hasn't ever acted like this before and I know it's just because he doesn't want to pay that much in child support. If he has one of the boys then he doesn't have to pay. So now I'm worried about getting sole custody because he won't have that now that he has his dad and an attorney telling him crap. This sucks, I just want SO badly to tell Ethan that his dad is a scum and that he won't be happy there. But I'm not that type of person. He can be petty if he wants. I may lose my son for a while but I'll pray that he comes around and learns the truth about him. Pray for me too.